On the authority of Saa'd (Ibn Abi Waqas May Allah bepleased with him) who said that verses of the Qur'an revealed his story. He saidUm Saa'd (his mother) swore not to talk to him ever nor eat or drink until herenounces Islam. She said: You claim that Allah commanded you to obey yourparents. I am your mother and I order you to do this ( to renounce Islam). Hesaid:

She stayed with nothing to eat or drink for three days until she faintedbecause of strain.

Then one of her other sons named Umarah gave her water todrink. And she started to imprecate against Saa'd, then Allah revealed thisverse in the Qur'an, which translates to the meaning of {And We have enjoined onman to be good and dutiful to his parents; but if they strive to make you joinwith Me (in worship) anything (as a partner) of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. Unto Me is your return and I shall tell you what you used todo} Verse 29:8 - Surah 29, Al Ankabut. This Hadith is narrated by Imam Ahmad inhis Musnad and in Sahih Muslim in his Sahih under # 1748.

Also, Allah revealed another verse in the Qur'an, which translates to:

"But if they (both) strive with you to make you join inworship with Me others that if which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turnsto me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and Ishall tell you what you used to do"( 31:15 - Surah Luqman).

Based on the above stories one can determine how to deal with a non believing mother and can draw the following significant conclusions:

The importance of good presentation of Islam to the nonbelieving mother and to try to kindly persuade her and to strive to convince heras Abu Huraira did story # 1

Continue to do good to the non believing mother and to remember that her disbelief does not justify disobedience by the son or daughterand that doing her good does not contradict with your innocence of her as a nonbeliever, on the contrary as it is stated in Verse 31:15 above, Allah hascommanded us to treat the non believing parents kindly even if they strive tomake their child a polytheist because of their rights as parents hoping thatthey will embrace Islam.

Continue to sincerely pray and supplicate for the nonbelieving mother hoping that Allah may guide her, as evident in Abu Huraira'sstory

story #2

The divine guidance of Allah may come after continuousstrive by the child and strong objection of the mother as in Abu Huraira'sstory, therefore the son should never surrender or give up but should continueto pray and supplicate for the non believing mother.

Regardless of how hard does the non believing motherstrive to make the son renounces Islam, and the pressure she will exerciseagainst her son such as refusing to eat or invoking upon him , the son shouldnever surrender or give in nor should he retrocede away from the righteous pathas one of the Sahaba said to his non believing mother in a similar situation: :If you had one hundred (100) souls and it all left your body one after theother I will never give up my religion (Islam.

It seems that the mother in question deliberatelyoppresses her daughter through estrangement which makes her emotional torn butthat should never weaken the muslim or shake his faith and belief in hisreligion. There is no objection to make the non believing mother understand thatyou are not going to retrocede , however she (the mother) can kindly ask foranything and she will be immediately answered to it except for giving up thisreligion.

We ask Allah to quickly guide her to the righteous pathand give you patience to call her to Islam and lead you to the righteous andcorrect way